I Was Too Big
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What Happened

I was born with a wide field — emotional, energetic, spiritual, mentalEarly in life, others responded with fear, control, shame, or silenceI was called intense, dramatic, sensitive, arrogant — or “too much”Instead of being welcomed, I was managedI learned to fragment —
to split myself into smaller parts
that wouldn’t scare, stretch, or disturb
So I could stay close,
feel safe,
and be acceptedThis is not emotional memory

It is nervous system programming.
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Feels in the Body

Chest tightness when entering spaces that feel too smallDesire to speak, then immediate withdrawalTrying to be unseen
Less visible in groupsShrinking physically (shoulders in, head down, breath shallow)Rage that doesn’t explode — just lingers, heavyConstant pressure to soften, smile, simplify
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Is Not True

That my bigness was a problemThat my presence had to be earnedThat I needed to be humble to be lovableThat being alone means being wrongThat others’ discomfort is my responsibility

What Is True

I was never too big
I was unmetOthers’ reactions were about their limits, not my excessI can now stop bendingThe right life makes space without needing me to shrinkMy size is instructional — not dangerousI believe in myselfAnd now, I return

It helps to repeat

I was never too big.
They were not ready.
I return to my full shape.
I do not fold anymore.

And Breath
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Inhale
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I am allowed to be wholeExhale
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I release what silenced meInhale
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This is my shapeExhale
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I take up space as I was designed to

I was not designed to be “liked”
I was designed to be true
I was born with a field too wide for family patterns, social rules, false softnessEvery time I adapted, it was not weakness —
It was survival inside a system that had no language for my scale

──I Was Always Too Big
And That Is Sacred──

*This page exists so I never shrink again.

Explanation

⸻The Soul’s Early ExperienceSome souls are born with a depth that doesn’t match the surface of the world around them. Their energy field often holds a different rhythm, intensity, or spaciousness—something the environment isn’t prepared to meet.From early childhood, these souls may feel misunderstood. The family doesn’t know what kind of soul has arrived. Later, teachers, peers, friends, and colleagues respond with pressure—not always unkind, but shaped by a surface-level way of seeing.The soul may appear introverted or expressive, quiet or bright—but inside, there’s tension. To stay close, safe, or accepted, the soul fragments: hiding parts of itself, waiting for the right time to return fully.⸻When the Soul Energy ShowsIn moments of strong emotion, the soul’s true energy sometimes rises to the surface. It feels wide—fuller than most are used to—and that difference is often misread.People may call it “too big,” “too much,” “not normal,” or “wrong.” These labels shape the personality. An inner voice forms—critical, controlling—trying to contain what is actually sacred.This is how the inner conflict begins: you are both trying to protect yourself and hiding who you really are.⸻Absorbing and AdaptingWhen the personality doesn’t yet understand the soul’s function, and the soul hasn’t fully returned to the body, the human becomes like a sponge—absorbing others’ emotions, projections, and needs.Light is given away without realizing. Energy is drawn toward those who unconsciously take. And after long interactions, the body often feels ill, heavy, or emptied out.You may have adapted so well that others never noticed the cost. But adaptation is not always strength. Sometimes, it is survival.⸻The Soul’s Original ToneYou didn’t come here to be small. You came to carry something different—not louder, not better, just deeper. And that depth creates pressure until it is remembered and welcomed.⸻The Healing ProcessHealing for these souls is different. It doesn’t begin with effort—but with soft recognition.Even repeating the words above—slowly, with breath—can begin to shift something inside. Not because they are magic, but because they speak a truth your soul already knows.Engaging in conscious breathing—inhaling slowly through the nose, holding briefly, and exhaling gently through the mouth—can anchor you in the present moment, facilitating a reconnection with your inner self.Let the words settle.
Let them return you to yourself.
That is where healing begins.⸻What This Soul Type NeedsThis kind of soul often feels most at peace in solitude. Aloneness is not isolation—it is restoration. They need more air, more space, and more quiet than others.Embracing periods of solitude allows for introspection and self-realignment. In these quiet moments, the soul can decompress and realign with its authentic rhythm.In stillness, the soul’s structure can finally rest. Not shrink. Not vanish. Just be.⸻As the Soul ReturnsWhen the soul begins to return fully, the field reorganizes. The same energy that once felt “too big” becomes grounding, stabilizing, magnetic.You no longer need to shrink. You begin to hold, not just feel.This is the path. Not easy—but real.If these words resonate with you,
consider revisiting them during moments of self-doubt.
Let them serve as gentle reminders
of your inherent worth
and the sacredness of your journey.
Even repeating the words above — slowly, with breath —
can begin to shift something inside.
Not because they are magic,
but because they speak a truth your soul already knows.Engaging in conscious breathing —
inhaling slowly through the nose, holding briefly,
and exhaling gently through the mouth —
can anchor you in the present moment,
and help you reconnect with your inner self.Let the words settle.
Let them return you to yourself.
That is where healing begins.⸻What This Soul Type NeedsThis kind of soul often feels most at peace in solitude.
Aloneness is not isolation — it is restoration.
They need more air, more space, and more quiet than others.Embracing periods of solitude allows for introspection and self-realignment.
In these quiet moments, the soul can decompress and realign with its authentic rhythm.In stillness, the soul’s structure can finally rest.
Not shrink. Not vanish.
Just be.⸻As the Soul ReturnsWhen the soul begins to return fully,
the field reorganizes.
The same energy that once felt “too big”
becomes grounding, stabilizing, magnetic.You no longer need to shrink.
You begin to hold,
not just feel.This is the path.
Not easy —
but real.⸻If these words resonate with you,
consider revisiting them during moments of self-doubt.
Let them serve as gentle reminders
of your inherent worth
and the sacredness of your journey.

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I was never too big.
Only waiting for a world wide enough.

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